Happy New Year! I hope each of you had a fun and restful holiday!
During our December DMS Challenge meeting, students discussed how our words matter and how our choice of words can have a huge impact on others – in both positive and negative ways.
This idea applies to how we talk to and about our children, as well. Please take a few minutes to read the following article and remember how powerful your words can be!
As always, please let me know if you have any questions or concerns!
Your words can affect your middle schooler’s motivation…
The way your middle schooler hears you talk about him to others can have a lasting effect on him. It can motivate him to do his best—or discourage him from even trying.
To make sure your conversations have a positive effect on your child:
- Assume he is listening when you speak, even if he doesn’t appear to be paying attention. Kids instantly perk up their ears when they hear their names. And your child picks up more than your words. He is mature enough to take note of the tone of your voice and the context of the conversation.
- Avoid discussing your child’s strengths and weaknesses with his brothers or sisters. This can fuel sibling rivalry.
- Avoid making negative comments about your middle schooler to others—especially to other family members. Think of how you would feel if two people you love talked about how lazy you were, right in front of you.
- Congratulate him on his great grades and sports victories, but focus on what’s really important to you. Talk about his kindness or his sense of responsibility. And if you really want to motivate him, praise his effort. Tell about a time that he didn’t give up, even when the going got tough.
Reprinted with permission from the January 2017 issue of Parents Still make the difference!® (Middle School Edition) newsletter. Copyright © 2017 The Parent Institute®, a division of PaperClip Media, Inc. Source: S. Rimm, Why Bright Kids Get Poor Grades and What You Can Do About It: A Six-Step Program for Parents and Teachers, Great Potential Press.